Are You Happy?

Happiness is for everyone,not just a chosen few.

Everyone's happiness is not the same. People will receive happiness from many different areas. Simply,what makes you happy may not make me happy.People are different.

You have to come full circle with yourself and know what you want out of life.

I'm not saying that you need to stop whatever you're doing just know your limitations.

It's alittle more time restraining for women wanting to have children.It is better to have children early,I learned the hard way. As you get older,complications come into play with carrying and delivering a child.

What brought about this hub...

Doing some renovation on my place going thru lots of paperwork and shredding old statment,tax info from 2000 and ran across cards from my baby shower. My son is 12 years old.Found a check that was never cashed but moreimportantly I found a card from a co-worker,one that came to the hospital when I delivered.

The card stated 'Hope to be in the same place one day." You see she wanted a child but the guy she was with already had a child and didn't want anymore. She was in a dilema. I felt her pain because no woman really wants to have a child alone. She's still with the same guy and she still wants a child but her health isn't going to allow that . I called her and told her I was looking at the card and she told me,I regret everyday that I didn't take your advice.

My advice to her was to go after her happiness. If she wanted a child to have one. We had both been on the job for 9-10 years. Very much capable of raising a child even alone if need be.I told her that whatever happened she would have her child to love and that's a blessing.

I was with a man for several years that could not have any more kids and at the time I didn't want kids.Then after a couple of life's lessons I decided I wanted to have atleast 1 so I left the guy and lived on my own. I didn't get pregnant for several years later but I'm happy I had my child even though I'm a single parent, I wouldn't change a thing.

I told her to put it in God's hands and let it be.

She knew the reason I left the guy I was with was because I wanted a child,he asked if we could adopt,I wanted to experience pregnancy.He was ready to have his vasectomy reversed but it's painful and no guarantee,told him that was just too much for him to endure.

He understood I wanted a child,I wanted the happiness a child brings and he was one of the first to give me gifts when I did conceive.Even as my son grew him and his son put all toys,trucks and furniture I needed together.

Needless to say we are still very much friends.

A true friend wants your happiness even if it doesn't included them.

You have the right to be happy,to live the life you want,to love who you want,and to be respected the way you want.

So what do you want or need to make you happy?